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July 4, 2025 – Popular Nigerian singer Dotman has candidly shared his regret over leaving Nigeria for the United States, revealing he has been “struggling so much in silence.”
In a heartfelt confession on social media, the 31-year-old Afro-pop star expressed:
“Today I regret ever deciding to leave Nigeria and move to the USA. I have been struggling so much in silence.”
The Reality Behind the Relocation
Dotman’s revelation aligns with experiences shared by many Nigerian emigrants. While the dream of a better life abroad prompts many to relocate, the reality often paints a different picture.
A recent analysis by Punch noted that despite the opportunities overseas, newcomers frequently face harsh challenges: housing struggles, difficulty finding jobs, and even sleeping on streets or in cemeteries for some in Canada and the UK.
Reddit users from r/Nigeria paint a candid portrait of life abroad:
“Adjusting was very difficult… I was depressed for the first two years. My accent was made fun of, money was an issue.”
Another user warned of the loneliness epidemic many face, urging others to build strong support networks:
“Professional Nigerians who move abroad and cut themselves off… put themselves at risk.”
Why the Struggle Isn’t Just 'Japa' Regrets
The narrative that leaving Nigeria guarantees a better life is being challenged. While some celebrate newfound structure, safety, and financial clarity, others echo Dotman’s sentiment of silent hardship abroad:
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A corporate worker in the U.S. faced depression, isolation, and financial strain, despite long-term plans for success
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A Redditor in Canada shared how many immigrant families couldn’t bring dependents and ended up struggling to survive
A savvy comment from a travel agent highlighted heartbreaking outcomes: “I have had 2 commit suicide… If you are stranded please come back.
Dotman’s Message: A Call for Realism
Dotman’s emotional admission reflects a growing movement among Nigerian creatives and professionals urging honesty about life abroad. As he said, his struggles have been silent—a reminder that not everyone thrives overseas.
For Dotman and others in his position, this isn’t just personal regret—it’s a stark wake-up call:
Relocating is a major life decision. Beneath the allure of brighter lights lies a challenging reality—one filled with mental health strain, financial uncertainty, and social alienation.
Takeaway: While moving abroad can offer opportunity, Dotman’s story reminds us that it also demands resilience, support, and prepared expectations—otherwise the silence can be deafening.
Reporter’s note: Dotman did not specify if he plans to return to Nigeria. The conversation around diaspora struggles, however, is louder than ever
